Why I HLG?

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by Emily Everson

Why do you High Low Glitter?

I started using HLG after a YMCA Youth in Government conference where we reflected on our days at our nightly meetings. Since there were many of us, to keep things short and allow everyone to share we shared our highs, lows, and glitters. Once I got home from the conference, I realized how beneficial it was to reflect on the events of the day. My good friend, James Farnsworth, told me about the app and I downloaded it right away.

Who do you High Low Glitter with?

My best friends from high school.

What about the High Low Glitter experience has surprised and delighted you (aka what’s the glitter)?

Naturally, my friends and I were all nervous to go away to college and the potential of our friendships drifting. HLG has kept us connected in a way I never would have imagined. While life gets busy and we don’t always have the time to talk, reading everyone’s HLG before bed keeps us up to date with each other’s lives. Honestly, it has brought us all closer. We love it so much!!
EmilyEEmily Everson is a freshmen at the University of Minnesota studying at the Carlson School of Management hoping to major in accounting and non-profit management. She is from Lakeville, MN and graduated  from Lakeville South High School in June 2015. She volunteers at the YMCA on campus with the Youth in Government program, a program she fell in love with in high school. In her free time, she loves watching sports, running, and just being outside. 

Why I HLG

HLG has allowed me to see certain aspects of myself in a new light.

Why do you High Low Glitter?

I started using HLG because I was looking for an easy platform to do some self-reflection and journaling. I have decided to make it a habit because I noticed I really responded to the format and how it was making me think, as well as the convenience of the platform.

Who do you High Low Glitter with?

I use High Low Glitter by myself as a personal journal and self reflection tool.

What about the High Low Glitter experience has surprised and delighted you (aka what’s the glitter)?

What really surprised me about High Low Glitter was something I eluded to earlier, which was how I personally responded to this unique method of reflection. I’m the kind of person who has a life that’s a lot of the times flying at 50 miles an hour, thing coming at me left and right, so it’s often hard to find time to think about what’s going on in my life and internalize it. HLG has allowed me to see certain aspects of myself in a new light. I’ve seen that I become more efficient and effective in everyday life when I’m able to look back on previous HLG’s.
james-farnsworth– James Farnsworth
High school senior at Highland Park Senior High School in Saint Paul, Minnesota. He is very involved in Minnesota YMCA Youth in Government among many other activities. When not at school or work, he enjoys the culinary arts, watching reality TV, and catching up on current events via Twitter.

Stop Despairing and Strike a Deal

Wendy Lutter and collegebound son Tate

By Wendy Lutter, guest blogger

The countdown clock is ticking away. It is getting closer and closer to the time we will take our first born to college.  We are all going through an array of emotions from excited to sad, to savoring the “this is the last fill in the blank,” to being annoyed with each other and ready to have D-Day be here.

Amidst all our preparations, there has been a constant – at least daily – barrage of emails, texts, Facebook posts and tweets about articles describing the anticipatory grief of sending your kid to college. Based on some of these stories, one would think they are saying goodbye to their child forever, that all communication will be lost, as well as the end of any sort of relationship with their child.

I have been struck by the desperate tone of some of the articles. In one in particular, the mom tried everything to get her son to talk on the phone for more than one minute. She brought up an injury that the dog had, just to get a few more seconds of airtime. Parents want more information, details, stories.  But their kids don’t want to spend the time or energy to share.

It doesn’t have to be that way. I’ve learned from doing market research for the High Low Glitter team that you can strike a deal with college-aged kids: “You do High Low Glitter twice a week and I won’t call or text you.”  The High Low Glitter questions are specific, so the end results are a much deeper, more intimate snapshot instead of the hollow response to “How is it going?” Good.

When my son went away for three weeks to a college summer program, we tested it out. I was thrilled with the little snippets that he shared, like the glitter about the banana story:

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I think this story might have been lost all together had we not HLG’ed.

So when the countdown says zero and we say our goodbyes, I am going to not feel despair. I will eagerly await the inbox message telling me that my son has posted a new High Low Glitter. I look forward to HLG being a helpful tool in the new, exciting, (and I’m sure sometimes painful) uncharted territory of the next steps of our relationship.

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wendy-lutter-marketingWendy Lutter is a qualitative market researcher and the principal of Lutter Marketing. She has conducted research with High Low Glitter users on numerous occasions. Wendy lives in St. Paul, MN with her husband and two teen-aged children (although it will be only one two-weeks from now when her son heads off to college.)

Mentoring, Training, Leading, HLG-ing

Carly told us:

The other day at dance, I used High Low Glitter with a group of freshman girls that I mentor as part of our week of leadership training.

As a high school senior at Lakeville North High School, Carly Fredericks used High Low Glitter to deepen her connection with students.

Why I HLG

Christine and Abby

Christine and Abby

Why do you High Low Glitter?

When I am home we High Low Glitter in person around the dinner table, and I missed it when we were apart.  We started an HLG paper book version when I travelled. Abby would fill it out while I was gone and when I got home I would read all of the entries with her. It worked great but if I am gone for a week, I want to be engaged everyday in what’s happening in her life.

It is difficult to ask kids questions over the phone or on FaceTime to get them talking about their day. I find that the simple, repetitive nature of HLG creates comfort and consistency. She thinks about it during the day, knows what I will ask and has an answer. If you say, “how was your day today,” it doesn’t yield the same results. Usually you get the standard “Fine!”

We now use the App to communicate with each other everyday. It is part of the routine. It is a simple way for me to connect with her while I’m away in addition to the FaceTime calls where most of the time she is distracted!

What about High Low Glitter has surprised and delighted you? (AKA what’s the glitter?)

The very best part of HLG for us has been me sharing my ups and downs with Abby. As parents we try to sugar coat our lives and tend to only focus on them and what they “want” to hear. My relationship with my daughter is deeper and richer because I post my real highs and lows, and she gets to understand what a good day (or a bad one) really looks like for Mommy. If the best part of my day was landing a big marketing program proposal, then that’s what I tell her. She is learning a lot about Mommy and I am learning a lot about her at the same time.

– Christine Blumer
Dedicated single mom and business traveler, travelling for technology marketing job 10-15 days per month

Why I HLG

IMG951840Why do you High Low Glitter?

I started using High Low Glitter to keep in touch with my twin daughters when they left for college. It has been a great way to know what’s happening in their lives in a more in depth way than texting which we do often.

Who do you High Low Glitter with?

Just my daughters. They also share their posts with their mom and a couple friends, but I don’t see those connections and I like that.

What about High Low Glitter has surprised and delighted you? (AKA what’s the glitter?)

The quality of interaction given how fast and easy it is to post. I’ve found HLG to be a wonderful tool for feeling like I really know what’s going on in my daughters’ lives. We’re all very busy and finding time for a quality conversation is rare. But if we each take a minute – and that is all it takes – to write in our HLG, we stay connected in a really nice way. When we do talk, we refer back to the stuff we read about in each others HLG’s.

– David Upin, dad

 

Hearing Little Morsels of Her Day

Alicia told us:

A few weeks ago my daughter, Ayla, began Kindergarten. While the transition was certainly monumental for her, it was incredibly bittersweet for me. For the first time since her birth, I was sending her off to a new place for 30+ hours a week; giving her up to days I would only be able to glimpse through her eyes.

After a few days of hearing that the best parts of school were “lunch, recess, and her teacher” my husband and I decided to implement High-Low-Glitter at the dinner table. Suddenly, we were hearing about new friends, feet that got too hot in her gym shoes, and the Social Studies teacher who came to school dressed as Ms. Viola Swamp.

High-Low-Glitter has now become a routine all of us look forward to; just as we enjoy hearing little morsels of her day, she looks forward to sharing them. Three weeks into Kindergarten, we’re more in step with our girl, which has made the transition much easier on all of us.

unnamedFrom the mouth of my freshly-minted Kindergartener:

High: Playing tag with my new friends AND my old friends at recess.

Low: When the gym teacher forgot I was the line leader.

Glitter: Writer’s Workshop. All of a sudden I love writing! Today I wrote about swimming lessons, swimming in the ocean, and swimming teachers.

Alicia Lacy is a writer for Curbly.com and mom to Ayla (5) and Zev (2).

Inspired by Glitter

Ruth told us:

 

I am an inspirational speaker. I was recently the concluding speaker at a retreat for writers. Having spent the day together with rich content, I began my comments by asking the group to write down their high, low and glitter from the day. At the end of my comments, I asked each person to stand and share their glitter – in one word – with the group in order to establish a commitment to action to carry that word of inspiration forward. It was very successful.

Ruth is an inspirational speaker. To learn more, visit ruthbachman.com.

 

Bringing Genuine Socialization to Social Networking

Kimberly told us:

 

I’ve been using High Low Glitter since May. Initially it seemed like a fantastic way to share summer experiences with my 17 year old while she was away doing an internship. As I invited a few adult friends to join my feed I’ve found it to be one of my favorite reasons for having a smart phone. Either adding a quick post from my own day, or getting a chance to keep up with dear friends afar, this process has added some much needed genuine socialization to the social network craze. I love it!

Kimberly is a wife, mother and healthcare professional living in Atlanta, Georgia.

It Morphed Into My Travel Journal

Heather told us:

 

I use High Low Glitter to keep in touch with my family while we are separated. It is perfect when I am at college because we do not talk or see each other every day. However, this past summer when I went abroad, it became something different. It morphed into my travel journal. I would write really long highs and lows and glitters because I wanted to remember what happened and how I was feeling – as well as share those things with family back home. I love going back and rereading those posts, remembering my travels.

Heather is a college junior majoring in Geology. She spent the summer studying rocks and rock formations in Greece.